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We laughingly still can’t believe we had the guts to even try this in the first place! If we didn’t think the two families had the ability to blend well together, we never would have done it in the first place, because we feel very strongly about our kids and want the best for them. We were excited that we all loved each other, but it was easy to feel insecure. ” If he saw us being affectionate, he might worry, “Oh, no! They are going to hit it off and decide they don’t need me!
If I saw them being super affectionate, I might worry, “Oh, no! ”That was what we would worry about, but it wasn’t ever actually true, as we would discover when we would share our fears with each other.
It took a little while for us to wrap our heads around that one, because it is so different than how we grew up thinking about the way love works.
Once we learned to see our partner’s individual relationship together as a strength and not a threat, we found ourselves released from the trap of jealousy and insecurity and that let us nurture and grow a deepening love.
One man I have to work with sometimes, someone with a lot of power in my field, openly expresses that he believes gay people have a psychological illness.
So we live as just “house-mates,” including in front of our children.
Long story short, the three of us began doing more and more things together and it just . Every step forward just felt so right on so many different levels, and doors kept opening up right and left.
It was later that we discovered there was a term for what we were.
If we need a term, we consider ourselves “poly-fidelitous,” which is what poly’s call those who love more than one person in a long-term, faithful kind of way.
She had been my best friend for years, and we’ve always been closer than sisters. And then there was a LOT of open and honest communication, of course.
People used to always comment on how close we were, but we never realized that could be sexual, too. We got along incredibly, the three of us, and at some point, my best friend realized she had feelings for me. ” A lot of talking, a lot of thinking, all of us talking together as well as doing a lot of thinking on our own, individually. There has to be with any successful couple, and so with three people, even more so.We learned that if I am deeply in love with him, it strengthens and supports my loving relationship with her (and her relationship with him, too), and so on.