Dating a sikh woman
S., including graduate school at the University of Hawaii.She came back to live with them one summer and gave them a shock: just before she had left Hawaii she had accepted my offer of marriage.By the time he suddenly passed away, in 1997, I had become fairly comfortable with my role in the Sikh culture and religion.Today, when I visit our local Sikh religious center (called in the language a "gur-dwa-ra") with my wife's extended family, and sit quietly with the other men in devotion, I am comfortable in the surroundings.So, upon arrival at her parents' home, she announced that she wanted to get married.Her intended was a Western young man whom her parents did not know and who came from a background they had barely even heard of.Kamla's parents, who were both raised in a traditional Sikh tradition, saw that my two brothers belonged to a tradition that was similar in many ways to their own.They observed that the two young men were devoted to each other and their family, and that they were polite, well-educated and full of plans for the future.
Rabbi Julius Nodel (may he rest in peace) was about to retire at the time, and did not appear to have any reservations concerning officiating at our marriage. People often assume that "Eastern" religions, such as Sikhism, tend to be polytheistic, versus "Western" religions, which are monotheistic.In general, the parents approved these representatives of their future son-in-law, even before they met me.These boys, they declared to their daughter afterwards, were different from the ordinary Americans they had encountered.They knew nothing of what it meant that I was of a Jewish background.
It was only after my two younger brothers, who happened to be traveling together in Asia at the time, went to stay with Kamla's parents for about two weeks, that resistance to the marriage changed to acceptance of their daughter's choice.They could approve of the family their daughter was marrying into.