Divorced mothers and dating issues
For example, Hadfield found that custodial parents wanted their new partners to take on a parenting role with their children, as well as being the parent's romantic partner.
Parents figured that a new adult in the home would help them put some much needed distance between the family and the last romantic partner who was there, whether that person was the children’s biological parent or not.
Whether we want to admit it or not, children are going to experience instability as their parents go in search of romantic partners.
Parents who get into these relationships may have very different expectations for how things should be than the men and women who they’re bringing home.
After all, they didn’t choose to break up and can become very upset when they lose contact with another caregiver, especially if they had begun to like having that person around.
It’s even worse if the child’s parent says disparaging things about her or his ex-lover.
As I mentioned earlier, custodial parents often want the stepparent to be a real parent with responsibilities for the kids.In general, though, if the kid and the ex-partner were close, then parents should do what they can to make it easy for their child to stay connected.In truth, most ex-lovers are not going to want the contact.When it works out, the kids benefit from having more adults in their lives.
But what happens, as so often does, when the relationship breaks down?
Lately, I’ve noticed a pattern of serial romantic relationships among friends who are dating online.